Sunday, February 1, 2009

Courtesy of VH1’s Tool Academy

I, Rabiah, am addicted to VH1 Reality Shows.

It all started with I Love New York when Chance and Tango were battling it out for the love of Miss Tiffany. Today, that love has since expanded as far as Rock of Love.

I don’t have cable so I am regulated to watching the shows online and at my leisure. On a lazy Sunday after noon you could find me watching a whole season or two of some show I missed while completing grad apps.

Recently, I’ve been watching VH1’s Tool Academy. Basically, it’s a show about helping jerks realize they’re jerks in order to save their relationships. I know it’s only been two shows but I think every woman in America should watch it. As much as it focuses on the men and their ability (to or lack there of) to transform, watching how the women react in each scenario is more interesting to me.

All of the problems with each relationship is open for the world to see, yet the women blinded. Some of the men are just not a good match. However, I can relate to being in love with someone and not being able have that person love me the same way. You know, loving a person for they could be rather than who they are.

But where is the breaking point?

When is the moment of clarity when a woman decides that they deserve more?

I toss and turn about telling a friend to leave a no good man, and having her fall on her face. Then again I am not God so I don’t know what’s in store.

Indulge me for half a second with your thoughts…

Thanks for reading !


  1. This reminds me. I need to write my blog about the idiots on that show...SMH

  2. You're back! I don't know for how long but I am grateful for this LOL Someone just asked me about you last night and where you been...I told them you were busying yourself with life but was still alive and well so it's all good! LOL

    on to my comment....

    I think the breaking point comes in when you can't stomach someone elses shortcomings...when you can't look past them to continue on in the relationship. No "union" is perfect because no one is perfect but love will make you tolerate the hell out of someone, I will tell you that! My breaking point is when I can't tolerate him no more. And I usually make a clean break so it becomes a BIG deal because they claim they didn't see it coming. If I've WILLINGLY put up with someone's idiocy for the sake of accepting them (don't think I didn't mention what I didn't like though) FOR YEARS, it wasn't that they didn't see it coming...they just thought I wouldn't go anywhere. And that's when the joke was on them LOL

  3. @ CHI CHI,

    I will be there. lol I love that freakin show. lol

    @Syn ((((HUGS)))

    Yeah, my MIAness is over. lol I am around for good. I feel you, with me you get plenty of warning. After which, I am free to move about the country. lol

    My breaking point is when I feel like a complete idiot. At that point we have nothing to talk about.

  4. I'm addicted to VH1 reality shows too, lol! But, for some reason I can't seem to get into the RayJ show just yet. smh lol

  5. honestly i told myself i would stop watchin those shows after like the 3rd season of flavor of love but........I COULDNT HELP MYSELF... lol entertainment at other ppls expence is just so damn addictive!

  6. Good to see you.
    I am on the other side. I hate reality shows and I can't even watch the Train wrecks you mention. They have a strange power that once you look, you can't look away. New York, Chance and Real are you kidding, what price fame?

  7. great post! i am addicted to those shows, even if i don't know who the heck the "star" is (rock of love). it's so fake yet makes you think. that is a good point you make - why try to change someone who doesn't want or see the need to change. What is love and how to you know there is love in these situations?

    in tool academy, a lot of the time i thought it was the females who needed just as much help (aka christa). we have a lot in common!